|TEN WAYS TO LOVE YOUR KIDS
|There is great joy in children! They are a gift from
God and meant to be a tremendous source of blessing. They need to hear
from parents how special they are, and they need to hear it in terms they
understand and believe.
|How to communicate love to your children:
- Establish boundaries
for their lives. By setting boundaries you convey your love for them
by saying, I love you too much to let you grow up in any way other
than the way I know will honor God and bless you. Boundaries are only
as strong as you are willing to enforce them.
- Enjoy them.
It's fun to have kids. Enjoy the time with them. Fill your home with
smiles, laughter, and a little bit of craziness.
- Expose your
humanness to them. Let your kids hear you say, I'm sorry. I blew it
when you make a mistake. Whether blowing your stack without all the
facts, or saying something you later regretted, mistakes are part
of parenting. Admitting your human inadequacies face-to-face teaches
them by example.
- Explain the
reasons behind your decisions. Because I said so ought to be stricken
from every parent's vocabulary. It should be your goal to help them
reason through your decisions. That doesn't mean they will always
accept your judgments, but at least they need to understand the rationale
behind those decisions.
- Exchange ideas
with them. Your children will know they're something special when
you take the time to exchange ideas with them. When you expose them
to an intellectual life beyond the routines of a busy household, they
will see that you are treating them as valuable people. And many times
they grasp more from these exchanges than you suppose.
- Encourage them.
Encouragement in regular and massive doses is probably the best thing
you can give your kids to help them know you are on their team. Be
a cheerleader for your kids, helping them to believe in themselves.
Keep searching for opportunities to encourage your kids - they need
it so much.
- Help them to
believe they can go further than they dream. God invites you to challenge
your sons and daughters to look beyond where they are to imagine a
broader and richer and greater future.
- Physically express
what you feel in your heart. It's a delight to hug a 2-year-old, but
how easy it is to get out of that habit as the child enters the teen
years. You can never receive too many hugs - no matter what age. When
you express your emotion in hugs and tears, without fear of rejection,
then your children will enjoy the greatest security they can ever
- Examine your
marriage regularly. You best communicate love when they see that the
commitment Mom and Dad have to each other is so deep that they will
never violate that commitment and leave the children to deal with
- Exercise great
patience with them. It takes a lot of patience to be a parent. But
God uses the hard times of family life to bind families together.
|Dr.. David Jeremiah has been
senior pastor of Shadow Mountain Community Church in San Diego for nearly
20 years and is chancellor of Christian Heritage College. His national
radio program, Turning Point, is heard on more than 900 outlets across
the country, and he is the author of a dozen books. David and his wife,
Donna, have four children, two of them married, and one grandchild. From
Gifts from God by Dr. David Jeremiah, copyright (c) 1999. Used by permission
of Cook Communications, Colorado Springs, Colo.
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